Written by Simone Hirst, Marketing and Communications Manager, Connect Psych Services
As Mother’s Day approaches, it’s a time of mixed emotions for many, including myself. As a mother of two teenage girls and a wife, I feel incredibly grateful for the love and celebration that my family showers upon me, especially since my birthday falls within the same week. However, underneath the joyous festivities lies a tinge of sadness – a reminder of the mother I lost when I was only 22.
Growing up as an only child after my parents separated when I was just five, her presence loomed large in my life. Even though a lot of time has passed, the loss remains palpable, and while I’ve become adept at disguising sadness, and managing it has become somewhat easier, it never truly dissipates.
Despite this undercurrent of loss, I’m deeply appreciative of the blessings in my life. Being a mother, a wife, and a daughter-in-law to wonderful in-laws brings me immense joy. I’m grateful for the love and support of my friends and the fulfilling nature of my job. However, there’s always a part of me that longs to share these joys with my mother.
Mother’s Day, like other significant days, can evoke a range of emotions, impacting mental health and well-being differently for each individual. As someone who understands the complexities of these emotions, I believe in the importance of being there for others who may be navigating similar feelings of loss or longing during this time.
In celebrating Mother’s Day, let’s broaden our scope of gratitude to include not only mothers but also other special individuals who contribute to our lives—father figures, guardians, mentors, friends, and even ourselves. By embracing diversity in our expressions of gratitude, we foster a sense of inclusivity and compassion that enriches our connections and strengthens our sense of community.
How can we practice self-support and gratitude leading up to and on Mother’s Day?
Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself as Mother’s Day approaches. Acknowledge any emotions that arise, whether it’s joy, sadness, or a mix of both, without judgment.
Self-Care: Prioritise self-care activities in the days leading up to Mother’s Day. Set aside time for relaxation, whether it’s indulging in a bubble bath, taking a nature walk, or enjoying a favourite hobby.
Reflective Practices: Start a gratitude journal and reflect on things you’re thankful for, including your own strengths and qualities. Take time to celebrate your achievements and the love you give and receive.
Reflection: Take time after Mother’s Day to reflect on the experience. Acknowledge any moments of joy, gratitude, or sadness that arose and honor them as part of your journey.
Gratitude Practice: Continue your gratitude practice beyond Mother’s Day. Keep writing in your gratitude journal and focus on appreciating the love and support in your life, including your own resilience and strength.
Seeking Support: Reach out to supportive friends or family members if you need a listening ear or encouragement. Share your feelings and experiences with trusted individuals who can offer empathy and validation.
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